Why Do I Always Do That?

Do you act in ways that you don't like?

You're not wrong. You're not bad. You're conditioned. A long time ago, your body learned to do that to feel safer. As you did it, over and over, it got wired into your nervous system so deeply that now, it just happens. Your body does it automatically, before you can think about it.

It's a safety strategy -- a way your body learned, when you were young, to buffer you from bad feelings and help you feel safer. It was the best you could do back then. And you still do it now, automatically, even when it's not the best choice.

It was a way to manage trauma, so it gets triggered now any time you feel unsafe. For most of us, that happens a lot. If you felt unsafe as a child, you expect trouble now, so your safety strategies are running all the time.

Understanding it this way opens the door to healing that trauma. This is one of the books most often recommended by therapists, counselors, and coaches and most often gifted by partners, friends, and family members interested in personal growth. For couple's counseling, it is often the turning point in the healing process.

Many readers say, "This book has changed my life."
If you want to break old patterns and grow emotionally, this book is for you.