In our algorithm-driven world, we’ve grown used to filtering out everything that doesn’t match our preferences. Paul calls us to something radically different. In Ephesians 4, he tells us to “bear with one another in love,” using the Greek word anechomai, which means to be patient with and accept others as they are. It’s about learning to live with others when they are difficult, different, or don’t think like we do. Following Jesus means resisting the urge to demand people change to fit our preferences and instead learning to love them as they are.

Paul's letter to the Ephesians reveals that walking worthy isn't about earning our value through good behavior, but living from the security of knowing we're already worthy because of Christ. True humility flows from being anchored in God's love rather than seeking worth from external sources like achievements or approval. Christ-centered humility, combined with gentleness, creates unity in families, churches, and communities by allowing us to contribute to healing rather than division.

It can be a struggle sometimes to comprehend the concept of “walking worthy” in our calling. It can be interpreted as an aspirational challenge that only creates feelings of inadequacy, which can lead to cycles of comparison, judgment, or division within Christian communities. In Ephesians, Paul was addressing an early church that struggled with unity among diverse believers. The key is understanding the difference between aspirational worthiness and intrinsic worthiness.

Life throws unexpected challenges our way, but having clear personal values provides a foundation for navigating any situation with confidence. Values are more than beliefs - they're principles important enough to actually affect how you live. Jesus demonstrated this when he chose to eat with tax collectors and sinners, living out his core value of mercy despite criticism. To discover your values, start with a comprehensive list, narrow it down through comparison questions, and observe which ones consistently show up in your decisions. Don't choose values you think you should have; choose the ones that authentically reflect who God made you to be.

Life often feels overwhelming, just as it did for young Mary when the angel Gabriel appeared with life-changing news. Before delivering his announcement, Gabriel called Mary highly favored and told her to rejoice. He didn't promise to change her difficult circumstances, but highlighted the joy already present because she was beloved by God. We can become highlighters of joy for others by truly noticing people, speaking encouragement out loud, and bringing moments of lightness to their days. This doesn't mean ignoring real problems, but helping people see goodness and possibilities they may have lost sight of when life became too much to handle.

The story of Ruth and Naomi illustrates how devastating loss can overwhelm us, but it also introduces us to Boaz, who went beyond obligation to show genuine care and concern. Boaz demonstrated three key ways to help others during difficult seasons: showing kindness, offering encouragement, and advocating for others. We can do the same today by reminding people of what matters most, sharing our own struggles to provide perspective, and offering practical support when others feel overwhelmed. This Christmas season presents an opportunity to look around and help others find hope again.