So many of us are unconsciously waiting for approval—running inherited scripts, following old rules, and sitting in the passenger seat of our own lives. In this episode of Cool Change, Chuck Allen talks with author and change guide Jillian Reilly about the radical act of giving ourselves permission.

Together they explore why self-authorization matters more than ever, how to spot the quiet “stirrings” that signal it’s time for change, and practical ways to start listening to your inner voice—without waiting for someone else to green-light your life.

Whether you’re facing a career shift, navigating relationships, or simply craving a new way of showing up, this conversation is an invitation to slide into the driver’s seat and design a life that feels like you.

Resources & Links:

• Jillian Reilly’s book The 10 Permissions: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
• Jillian’s website: tenpermissions.com
• Learn more about the Cool Change Method: coolchangelifedesign.com

Connect with Chuck:

• Podcast: Cool Change on Apple Podcasts | Spotify
• Website: coolchangelifedesign.com
• Instagram: @chuckallen

In this final episode of the Cool Change Method™ series, Chuck Allen dives deep into Step 6: The Integration. This isn't about completion—it's about living fully into the transformations you've made and continually evolving your identity in everyday life.

Chuck shares a powerful story about his encounter with Bernie Marcus, co-founder of Home Depot, and reflects on the power of continually leaning forward, staying curious, and keeping your dreams bigger than your memories.

Key Takeaways:

• Integration means continually evolving—embracing the journey, not just the destination.
• Practical ways to notice and honor your personal growth.
• Techniques to consciously apply your insights and new identity in daily scenarios.
• How integration can be joyful, playful, and deeply satisfying.
• The role of community in supporting your integration journey.

Action Step: Take a moment this week to consciously visualize and rehearse showing up as your new self in a specific scenario. Notice and celebrate your growth.

Quote to Remember:

“When your memories outweigh your dreams, the end is near.” (source: Andy Stanley)

Resources:

• Website: coolchangelifedesign.com
• Follow on Instagram @chuckallen
• and TikTok: @coolchangechuck

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who's navigating their own transition. Together, we grow better.

Keep practicing. Keep becoming. Keep living intentionally.

In this episode, Chuck walks us through the fifth step of the Cool Change Method™: The Practice. He explores the quiet, grounded work of integrating belief and behavior—of building new rhythms, one decision at a time.

You’ll hear:

• Why simplicity and elimination are essential for sustainable change
• A powerful metaphor about software vs. firmware—and why belief change matters more than behavior change
• A personal story about what it really took to show up as a present father across 2,000 miles
• A practical morning ritual to anchor your intention in the real world
• An honest reflection on why falling out of rhythm isn’t failure—it’s part of the work

This is not about perfection. It’s about return.

The change you’re after isn’t hiding from you. It’s waiting to be practiced.