Have you ever been with someone that said they wanted to get married – yet couldn't seem to pull the plug when it came to commitment? What happens when they have a pattern of ending things as they are getting serious? We're talking to our guest Steve Budd about his continued search for "The One" and how his struggles with commitment have ended numerous serious relationships despite him wanting to get married more than anything. We're discussing wanting a relationship vs. having the capacity for one, the fall out of how Dreamer tendencies can get ahead of themselves in relationships, and how to preserve hope as you date through your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.

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This episode is sponsored by the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy. If you want safer dating, download Hily from the App Store or Google Play, or check out https://hily.go.link/kuZOy

You may have seen the viral article 'Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now"? from Vogue circling around. We're giving our two cents on the article: from why are equating social media to life, the difference of having your own identity vs. being embarrassed about having a relationship, and how this article is missing research, depth, and nuance to actually decode a trend on relationships. Let us know your take if you've read the article, or if not, check it out first: https://www.vogue.com/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now.

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Whether it was from a situation you thought was going to become more to your ex of five years, moving on after heartbreak is one of the most challenging parts of finding love. We're here with your breakup bestie Kendra Allen who is joining us to talk about what it looks like to regain your sense of self and come back stronger after heartbreak...to eventually meet the love of your life (or actually get back with your ex in a way that it is sustainable for the long-haul). We discuss how to know whether you made the right decision when you ended things, ways to rebuild your confidence after a breakup, and heartbreak hacks that make you unstoppable. Plus we debrief on Julie's honeymoon to Greece + Yue's family trip in China.

Follow Kendra @yourbreakupbestie and listen to her podcast 'Heal Your Heartbreak' (we are episode #254) wherever you get your podcasts.

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

This episode is sponsored by the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy. If you want safer dating, download Hily from the App Store or Google Play, or check out https://hily.go.link/kuZOy

We're not talking about...they wore a weird belt. Or have three cats. But the REAL red flags that eventually wreck havoc on your relationships and turn into dealbreakers. For anyone dating, this episode is a must (or if you're seeing someone the perfect gut check). We're discussing how to shift our focus onto actual red flags, the 5 each we both see leading to absolute relationship dealbreakers, and why it's important to look out for red flags (pending you're looking for the right ones).

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Have you ever had a date where it felt like pulling teeth to have a conversation? Or a conflict with your partner where it felt like you were speaking different languages? Join us as we unravel the power of being a super communicator with Charles Duhigg, acclaimed author and expert on interpersonal dynamics. We discuss why communication is the key to chemistry and connection on dates, the three different conversations that can happen at the exact same time (without us even realizing), and techniques you can use to keep the conversation flowing on your dates, messages, and everything in between.

Follow Charles @charlesduhigg and get his book 'Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection"

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

This episode is sponsored by the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy. If you want safer dating, download Hily from the App Store or Google Play, or check out https://hily.go.link/kuZOy

The "S" word...the dirtiest word in dating. No one wants to settle. And we're 100% advocating that you never settle again. But all too often we focus on the wrong things when trying not to settle – and sometimes end up settling even more than we realize. We're discussing the ultimate settling paradox, the actual definition of settling, and the two things to do to make sure you never settle again.

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Who carries the weight in your relationship or early dates—the calendar, the check-ins, the emotional temperature checks? We're diving into the mental load that happens in modern relationship – and what brings you closer versus take on unnecessary hardship. We're discussing the difference between emotional support, labor and load, the behind-the-scenes effort that shows up even in early dating, and the shifts you can make so you're no longer the one carrying as many emotional burdens (that you may not even be aware of!)

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

This episode is sponsored by the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy. If you want safer dating, download Hily from the App Store or Google Play, or check out https://hily.go.link/kuZOy

In the world of dating apps, it's easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of messaging without ever meeting in person. Join us as we explore the art of the ask-out – or hinting at an ask-out if you're reluctant to make the first move. We discuss how to make sure your conversation doesn't go into that dreaded messaging graveyard, the balance between being pursued and taking initiative, and why understanding the limitations of dating apps may actually change your perspective of why you may not be getting asked out as often as you'd like.

Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com

Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.