Remember the electric excitement of new love—that can't-keep-your-hands-off-each-other feeling that makes your skin tingle before they've even touched you? That's not just chemistry; it's powerful energy work happening naturally. But what about when that initial spark fades? Does it mean something's wrong with your relationship?

Absolutely not. Drawing from nearly two decades of experience connecting people with their bodies and sensuality, I'm diving deep into the natural evolution of desire in long-term relationships. That initial infatuation serves a purpose—it pulls us together with magnetic force. But as relationships mature, something more profound develops if we let it.

Think of it like this: you have 100 points to distribute across your relationship. At first, most go toward lust and chemistry. As you build trust and understanding, those points redistribute—not disappearing but transforming into something richer. This shift explains why many women find their arousal patterns change in established relationships. Your body's response isn't broken; it's simply operating in a different mode that requires more intention and presence.

The real enemy isn't time—it's complacency. When we substitute Netflix marathons for conversation, scroll through social media instead of looking into our partner's eyes, or stop making time for physical connection, we're actively dismantling intimacy. The antidote? Curiosity. About your partner's body. About their fantasies. About what makes them feel seen and desired. Creating playful tension through teasing and anticipation. Building sexual energy throughout the day through subtle touches and suggestive messages.

Whether single or partnered, we must fight the numbing effects of modern life that disconnect us from our sensuality. Find something that ignites your curiosity, look at the world with wonder, and most importantly—lead with your heart and live with intention. Your relationship (and your life) will thank you for it.

Mentioned Episodes, Ep 1 Steps to Self Love and the meditation for steps to self love is between Ep 69 and 70.

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I hope you enjoy your day.
Jolene
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