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How To Stop Bickering: 12 Strategies

How To Stop Bickering: 12 Strategies

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 Do you want to... Bicker less and catch yourself before you start? Stay calm and empathetic during conflict? Feel more at ease and connected so - that you're less inclined to fight? Tune in for a discussion - of why we bicker and 12 simple strategies to reduce conflict in relationships as Jess and Brandon weigh in on this listener question: "We love each other madly. He's really the love of my life, and we don't seem to have any big, deep issues because we're really aligned - on values, family, spirituality, and the core issues. But we bicker a lot. I don't like the example we're setting for our kids. How can we cut back on the daily bickering so our household is more at ease and we have more peace - because we both work from home." Before we dive in, thank you for being here. We appreciate you. If you're shopping, please feel free to check out our affiliate links and use our discount code DRJESSVIP to save on your next toy, lingerie or lube order. Code DRJESSVIP THANK YOU! 💜 (for real) Code: DRJESSVIP-Save $ + Support Us! No pressure — but if you’re shopping, use our code DRJESSVIP for exclusive savings and a little support for us, too. Win-Win! LOVEHONEY.COM WE-VIBE.COM This is an affiliate link. We may earn a commission. Thank you! TL;DR: Bickering Isn’t Always About the Dishwasher You love each other, your values align, so why are you fighting about who put the kids to bed (again)? Because bickering is often a symptom, not the problem. Stress, burnout, unspoken needs, or tired communication habits can all show up as low-grade, repeat conflict. In-the-moment strategies: Try the “99 Rule”. Will this matter when you’re 99? Change rooms, change tone, change outcomes. Ask for what you need instead of assuming your partner should know. Prevent it before it starts: Know your triggers and name them. Add physical affection (hello, 10-second hug). Reduce outside stress so home doesn’t become the battlefield. Connection is a buffer. Whether it’s a cuddle, a laugh, or a pleasure-enhancing tool like the We-Vibe Nova 2 or Melt, investing in closeness makes conflict less sticky. Want more insight into your patterns? Try our Core Erotic Feeling post or this 2-minute reset connection exercise. Why Do We Bicker? It’s not always about the dishwasher or who put the kids to bed. Bickering often masks unmet emotional needs, stress spillover, or deeper relational patterns. Sometimes it’s about rice. Sometimes it’s about power. Sometimes it’s a sign you’re both just worn down. In this episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast, we tackle the big question behind the little fights: “Why are we bickering all the time when we love each other so much?” And perhaps more importantly, how can we stop? How to Stop Bickering (In the Moment) 1. Be Quiet & Listen It sounds simple. But listening (not to reply, not to defend) is one of the hardest relational skills. Picture the word “listen” scrolling across a ticker in your mind to help you stay present. 2. Try the 99 Rule Ask: “Will I care about this when I’m 99?” If not, consider letting it go. Our energy is precious. Spend it on what matters. 3. Write Down What You Want Use your phone to note what you’re actually seeking in the moment. Are you just stressed and looking for connection? 4. Take Some Responsibility Even if you’re not ready to say it aloud, try to own your part internally. It shifts the dynamic almost instantly. 5. Change the Setting Move. Walk. Change rooms. Sit on the floor. Shifting your physical space can shift your emotional tone too. 6. Laugh (But Kindly) Humour (not sarcasm) can defuse tension. Shared laughter strengthens bonds and soothes conflict...
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