In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Ari Tuckman to talk about one of the most layered and misunderstood topics in the ADHD world: productivity—and how it's tangled up in our relationships, our childhoods, and the expectations we carry from society.

We dove deep into how our early experiences shape the way we function (or struggle to function) as adults with ADHD. So many of us grew up feeling like we were “too much” or “not enough,” and those messages often turn into people-pleasing patterns and unrealistic productivity standards that are so hard to shake.

Ari and I explored what it really means to be productive—not based on hustle culture or external pressure—but in a way that feels aligned with our personal values, goals, and life circumstances. We also talked about how this plays out in relationships, and how important it is to communicate openly with our partners about what’s going on beneath the surface.

We touched on the emotional labor of living with ADHD, the frustration of not meeting expectations (especially our own), and the real need for self-compassion as we navigate personal growth. Because here’s the truth: being in relationship with yourself—and with others—requires space for change, grace for the messiness, and a deep understanding that we’re always evolving.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt like they’re not measuring up, who’s navigating the push-pull of productivity and self-worth, or who’s simply trying to do the best they can with the brain they have. I hope it helps you feel seen, understood, and a little less alone in the process.

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If you’ve ever felt like your struggles with ADHD make you "less than"—this one’s a must-listen.

We’re diving deep into Shame Resilience Theory (thanks, Brené Brown!) and unpacking why ADHDers are especially vulnerable to toxic shame. Spoiler: It’s NOT because you’re lazy or broken (even if you’ve been made to feel that way).

✨ We’re covering:

1. Why shame thrives in secrecy—and how to stop feeding it.
2. The real reason ADHD tasks feel SO loaded with guilt and moral judgment.
3. How shame travels in families (👋 hi, generational shame).
4. The antidotes: empathy, self-compassion, and speaking your shame OUT LOUD.

We’re done letting shame run the show. Join me and learn how to break the cycle and build real shame resilience 💥. Hit play now—you do not want to miss this one!

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Today we're talking emotional flexibility, why black-and-white thinking is holding you back, and how one tiny phrase (borrowed from parenting wisdom!) can radically change how you relate to yourself and others: “Two things can be true.”

You’ll also get:

1. A cheat-code app for building emotional intelligence (perfect for ADHD brains)
2. My spicy take on that viral New York Times ADHD article
3. A heartfelt message for anyone struggling with a late diagnosis
4. And yes… the spicy podcast review that called me racist and sexist against white men

It’s messy, it’s honest, it’s full of laughs and truth bombs. Basically, it’s classic ADHD.

Hit play now—because this episode might just change how you see yourself (and the world)

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