In this episode, we dive into a lifestyle topic that sparks massive debate: playroom etiquette and the “grey areas” that aren’t written in the rules.

We share a real experience from Fata Morgana (Netherlands) where another couple began having sex very close to us (around 20cm) in a small open playroom. No rules were broken, nobody touched anyone… but the vibe shifted fast, mainly due to proximity and intense watching.

That led to the real question: When something is technically allowed, can it still be socially tone-deaf?

We also share highlights from the Reddit discussion (yes, some people roasted us), unpack the difference between rules vs social awareness, and give practical advice for navigating open play spaces when everyone’s boundaries are different.

Plus: Cate’s upcoming Bliss Cruise hotwife adventure, and our latest attempt at making new local lifestyle friends (with very Dutch planning timelines).

- Playroom etiquette vs “grey area” social awareness

- Parallel play, proximity, and when it feels invasive

- Why eye contact can change the dynamic fast

- Reddit reactions: “technically allowed but socially tone-deaf” vs “open room means accept it”

- Newbie advice: you can’t control others, only your response

- Cate’s Bliss Cruise plans with Mallory (two hotwives on the loose)

- Unicorn/hotwife dynamics + messages on the Bliss app

- Seasickness tips wanted + the drink package debate

- Finding new swinger friends: Cate sent 13 local messages and is tracking replies

Cate will be sailing on the April 2026 Bliss Cruise, including the beach parties in Jamaica and Cozumel.

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- $750 cashback for international guests

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Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder

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EP214 – Swinger Cruises: Inside Bliss Cruise with CEO Russell Stephens

In this episode, we’re joined by Russell Stephens, CEO and part owner of Bliss Cruise, the world’s largest and most influential lifestyle cruise brand, for an unfiltered conversation about the past, present, and future of Bliss Cruise.

Russell shares how Bliss Cruise was acquired, why the ownership structure changed, and how decisions are actually made behind the scenes. We talk candidly about community concerns, guest privacy, pricing, drink packages, sponsorships, and the realities of working with major cruise lines while protecting a sex-positive lifestyle experience.

Join Cate on Bliss Cruise – April 2026

Cate will be sailing on the April 2026 Bliss Cruise, including the beach parties in Jamaica and Cozumel.

Book here to join Cate and receive exclusive cashback: https://wanderlustswingers.com/bliss-cruise-april-2026/

- $750 cashback for international guests

- $300 cashback for North American guests

We also dive deep into what most guests never see, the logistics, planning, staffing, and production required to transform a “vanilla” cruise ship into a full-scale lifestyle event with thousands of guests.

If you’ve ever wondered:

- Who actually owns Bliss Cruise and how decisions are made

- How a cruise ship is converted into a swinger cruise in under 24 hours

- Why drink packages cost what they do

- What happened with cameras, videography, and privacy concerns

- How Bliss balances legacy guests with modernizing the experience

- Whether West Coast Bliss cruises are ever coming

- What goes into playrooms, music programming, and themed cruises

In This Episode

- Why Bliss Cruise was acquired and what changed with new ownership

- Russell’s personal history in the lifestyle and why that matters

- How guest feedback and surveys directly shape future cruises

- Privacy, consent, videography, and lessons learned

- Drink packages, pricing realities, and why sneaking alcohol hurts the community

- Sponsorship decisions and why some partnerships won’t happen again

- Behind-the-scenes logistics: staffing, playrooms, AV, decor, and scheduling

- How Royal Caribbean crews actually feel about Bliss sailings

- What makes Bliss Cruise different from resorts, clubs, and land-based events

Useful Links

Join us at a Swingers Event: https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/

Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/

Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder

Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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EP213 – Sexual Wellness, Performance Anxiety & Pleasure Products for Better Sex in the Swinger Lifestyle (Promescent CEO)

Sex toys, delay sprays, arousal gels, performance anxiety, libido, orgasms, and why using sexual wellness products does not mean you’re “bad in bed.”

In this episode, we’re joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, one of the world’s most trusted sexual wellness brands, to talk about the real science, real psychology, and real-world use of pleasure products — especially in the swinger and non-monogamous lifestyle.

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We dive deep into premature ejaculation, the arousal gap, performance pressure, female pleasure, and why the best lovers in the world use tools.

We also explore the incredible backstory of Promescent, including clinical trials, urologists, turning down a $30M pharma buyout, and why Jeff was determined to keep these products available next to condoms, not behind a prescription counter.

If you’ve ever wondered:

- Is using a delay spray cheating?

- Is performance anxiety mental or physical?

- Do arousal gels actually work?

- What should be in a swinger’s hoe-on-the-go bag?

- How do you last longer with multiple partners?

In This Episode

- The biggest myths about sexual wellness products and what they really mean

- Why the best lovers in the world use performance and pleasure aids

- The real science behind premature ejaculation (and why it’s mostly physiological)

- The “arousal gap” and why most women need more time than most men

- Performance anxiety vs physical dysfunction — which is more common?

- The true story of turning down a $30M pharma acquisition

- How Promescent went from one product to 20,000+ retail stores (Target, Walgreens, CVS, etc.)

- Spray vs wipes: which works best and when to use each

- How long delay spray lasts and how to reapply in multi-partner scenarios

- What swingers should actually carry in their hoe-on-the-go bag

- Female pleasure, arousal gels, blood flow, and why warming/buzzing gels work

Useful Links from This Episode:

Join us at a Swingers Event: https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/

Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/

Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder

Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

Sponsors

Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine

Premature Ejaculation Spray, Delay Wipes, Arousal Gels & Sexual Wellness Products with Promescent Get 15% off using code wanderlust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26

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