Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP208 – Are Dirty Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic? (Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties) Bonus Episode: HotTakes with Wanderlust Swingers

Are “dirty vanillas” ruining swinger parties… or are we just old and grumpy? In this HotTakes bonus episode, we unpack the rise of sexy parties vs swinger parties — couples who love the lingerie, lights, drugs and dance floor, but have zero intention of swapping or playing. From empty playrooms at Dutch “takeovers” to US events that feel more MDMA than moaning, we ask: is this evolution, dilution, or just a different lane of fun?

• Dirty Vanilla 101: what the term actually means (monogamous couples who love the vibe, flirting, lingerie, but don’t play) and why it’s often used as a slur in the lifestyle.
• Marketing or Epidemic? Swinger events advertised as “dance parties” on TikTok/IG and “swinger parties” on dating sites – who’s actually to blame: the crowd, or the promoters?
• Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties: Dutch club takeovers, 1200-person Amsterdam “swinger” events with no licensed playrooms, and the fetish / dirty vanilla / swinger mash-up that pleases no one.
• Are we the problem? Cate & Darrell realise their expectations were stuck in “old school swinger” mode while the culture has shifted under their feet.
• Listener Q – Tim: “We’re exclusive. Can we go to a swingers club just for the vibe?” Cate’s nuanced yes, Darrell’s “please do!” and why intention + contribution matters more than labels.

We wrap by asking the big question: are dirty vanillas a lifestyle epidemic… or is this just what evolution looks like in a more fluid, less-stigmatized, sex-positive world?

Coming Up Next EP209 - Halloween weekend in London, MFMs, costumes, and chaos: stories from the playroom and beyond.

Useful Links from this Episode Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France): https://libertineevents.com/ Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/ Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP207 – How to Not Get Laid at Swingers Events (aka: are you “social-sexual”ing your way out of play?)

Ever left a lifestyle party with a sore throat from talking…and nothing else? In this episode we unpack why being a charismatic, chatty social butterfly can accidentally cock-block your own fun. Social sexual vs. DTF energy, how mixed signals stall momentum, and the exact moves to shift from talk to touch, without being creepy. Yes, there are wombat and platypus facts. No, we’re not sorry.

• Social V's Sexy: why holding court makes you look “unavailable,” the “talk block,” and how intent signals attraction better than endless banter.
• 6 Social Archetypes that Miss the Moment: the MC, the Talker, the Broad Flirt, the RBF, the “One More Drink,” and the Ghost
• Poll Results: 47% chat and forget to switch to play; 47% sometimes drift that way
• From Flirt to Close: specific lines that move things forward (“Are you free later?” vs. “Wanna go now?”)
• Listener Q: Tiffany’s husband holds court; Cate’s tactics to isolate, redirect, and actually get to a playroom
• Animal Fact Interlude: UV-glowing platypuses and cube-pooping wombats (you’re welcome, Charlotte).

EP208 – Sex Parties vs. Sexy Parties & the Dirty Vanilla Epidemic: how to read formats, avoid “no playroom” traps, and set expectations.

• Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France) https://libertineevents.com/
• Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
• Wanderlust Swingers Website https://wanderlustswingers.com/
• Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP206 – Cap d’Agde & Recent Swingers Parties

Is Cap d’Agde still the planet’s wildest swingers playground… or did we just hit it on extra-chaotic mode? In this on-the-road episode (recorded from a very “upgraded” Las Vegas suite), we recap our second 2025 run at Cap d’Agde — from Babylone poolside antics to a Le Glamour Beach foam party so packed you could crowd-surf — plus two very different European events: Flamigo Events in Belgium and the SDC 25th Anniversary World Party in the Netherlands.

We talk wins, fails, costs, dress codes, and why playrooms (or the lack of them) can make or break your night. Cate also shares a real-life health check-in on managing recurring UTIs in the lifestyle and the impact on travel, play, and partnership.

• Cap d’Agde, Round Two: language barriers, daytime soloing while your partner works, poolside flirtation, and making the most of peak-season crowds

• Babylone Pool Party: why it still tops our list for “sex-charged pool vibes” (and how to navigate it as a couple)

• Foam Party at Le Glamour Beach: shoulder-to-shoulder mayhem, VIP bed sticker shock, and strategies when you can’t secure a cabana

• Flamigo Events (Belgium): great DJs, pricey drinks, token systems, and why “sexy party” ≠ “swingers party” if there’s nowhere to play

• SDC World Party (Netherlands): last-minute municipal restrictions, and how to salvage a night out

• Costs & Value: what we actually spent vs. what we got (tickets, hotels, water, and those sneaky cup fees)

• Safety & Autonomy: why Cate feels safer at lifestyle events than at normal clubs — and how to set boundaries when attending with friends or a single guy

• Travel Planning for Lifestyle Events: don’t over-commit for unproven parties, read past reviews, and always have a Plan B (after-parties, club backups, pre-arranged connections)

• Verify the format (swingers club vs. sexy dance party) before you book suites and tailor outfits.

• Have a backup plan: pre-message on dating sites, line up an after-party, or keep a reputable club in your pocket

• Mind the logistics: token drink systems, locker processes, heat/AC, and dress-down rules can heavily affect your night.

• Health in the lifestyle: proactive UTI management, pacing your play, and honest partner communication.

• Trip length matters: 4 days vs. 6 days at Cap d’Agde — what actually feels good for different personalities.

EP207 – How Not to Get Laid at Lifestyle Events (aka: are you “social swinging” your way out of play?).

• Libertine Events – U.S. & EU Takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale and France in 2026)

• Patreon – BTS photos, outfits & bonus audio

• Wanderlust Swingers Website

• Join SDC the worlds largest Lifestyle Swingers Dating Site

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