Are you stuck between riding for growth and riding for results? Not sure when it’s the right time to push your performance without sacrificing your mindset? This episode is for YOU.

This week, I and Lorna dive deep into one of the biggest mindset dilemmas riders face: 👉 When do you stop just focusing on the process and start showing up to be competitive, on purpose?

Whether you’ve been playing it safe in the ring or struggling to get that last 10% out of yourself, this conversation will shift your thinking and ignite your inner competitor (without the toxic pressure).

In this episode, we explore:

• How to tell when your mindset and skills are solid enough to start competing with purpose
• What the “Wall of Confidence” really is, and how to make sure yours doesn’t collapse under pressure
• Why performance plateaus often signal the need to increase the challenge, not ease off
• How to push your limits without focusing on the result
• The secret to getting into flow state more consistently
• Why a bigger canter (not a bigger fence!) could be your next breakthrough
• What to do when you're stuck in the “messy middle” of growth

Resources Mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
🐎 Apply for coaching with us: mindeq.eu/coaching

Follow us on instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

If you loved this episode: Please leave a rating and review! It helps so much and helps us spread the message to more riders like you.

Why is riding so freaking hard sometimes? Why do we keep showing up, even when it feels impossible, unfair, or downright soul-crushing?

In this raw and real episode, I and Lorna had a heartfelt conversation on the mental toughness it takes to be an equestrian, and why the sport can feel so emotionally loaded compared to things like running or gym work.

We explore why the dopamine hit feels delayed in riding, and how frustration often signals progress, if we can stick with it long enough.

This episode is for you if you've ever walked away from a lesson wondering if you’re even cut out for this sport.

If you've ever felt like a failure after not figuring something out, or wondered why it takes you so long to “get it” when everyone else seems to fly past with ease.

We peel back the layers on the messy middle of learning, the internal battles we fight, and the truth about what’s on the other side of hard.

What You'll Hear in This Episode:

• Why we get the dopamine rush from running, but not always from riding
• The difference between external results and internal understanding
• How expectations (yours or your trainer’s) can sabotage your confidence
• The hidden mental load of being an ambitious amateur rider
• What to do when your training feels stuck, pointless, or “off”
• Tools for reframing frustration so you don’t give up too soon
• The power of pressing pause, giving space, and trusting your learning process

Resources mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

Welcome back to another episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast, where we help ambitious riders make real strides in their mindset, so they can make real strides in the saddle.

This week, I and Lorna dive into a deceptively simple yet deeply transformative topic: the power of your words; especially the ones you say to yourself.

From self-talk during tough training sessions to the limiting beliefs quietly shaping your confidence, this episode is all about helping you build awareness around your internal dialogue, challenge unhelpful thoughts, and create new habits that support your goals.

In this episode, You will learn:

• Why the words in your head matter more than you think
• A simple 4-part filter to challenge unhelpful thoughts: Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it your reality? Do you need to obey it?
• How internal self-talk can either fuel progress or feed fear
• The importance of accepting hard days without making them mean you're a bad rider
• The difference between helpful honesty and toxic self-criticism
• Why mental training deserves the same attention as physical conditioning
• Using awareness and intention to shift from self-sabotage to self-support
• How to create your own “rules of self-talk” just like you would in a professional environment or a family culture
• Powerful metaphors like the “stage show” and “squeezing the last bit of toothpaste” to help you visualize mental resilience
• The reason most riders revert to old habits under pressure, and how to break that cycle

Whether you're prepping for a competition, navigating a plateau, or simply trying to ride with more confidence and clarity, this episode will give you a mindset tune-up you didn't know you needed.

Resources mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

Do you ever feel physically ill before a competition, like you might actually throw up? You’re not alone.

In this powerful episode, I and Lorna tackle one of the toughest emotional challenges riders face: pre-competition anxiety so intense it makes you sick. But here’s the thing; it doesn’t have to be that way.

Together, we unpack what’s really happening in your mind and body when nerves take over, and most importantly, how you can take back control.

You’ll learn:

• Why the sick feeling is more than just nerves, and what it's really telling you.
• How to identify the thought patterns behind your anxiety
• The simple mindset shift that can help you stop spiraling before you even start
• How to fact-check your fears with reality (and math!)
• Why our brains love stories, and how to write a better ending for yours

This episode is both eye-opening and empowering, offering a fresh perspective that every ambitious equestrian needs to hear, especially if you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or questioning your ability to keep pushing for your goals.

You’ll walk away with:

• A deeper understanding of the mental loop behind show nerves
• Practical steps to challenge unhelpful thoughts
• A more resilient mindset that will serve you both in the saddle and in life

🎧 Whether you're headed to your next event or just trying to make sense of your own inner pressure, this episode is for you.

Resources mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, I share a personal journey of focus, intention, and what it really means to make progress.

With my wedding and the competitive season for my eventing horse Echo in full swing, I made a bold decision: to intentionally let go of doing it all, and instead focus on doing fewer things really well.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why trying to “do it all” might be the real reason you’re stuck
• How to apply the 80/20 rule to your riding and your life
• The mindset shift from guilt to trust in your decisions
• How to prioritize your riding goals without burning out
• Practical steps to reframe success and avoid the hustle trap

I also share candid thoughts about putting my showjumper Queenie on the back burner and what it’s taught me about growth, guilt, and grace.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed trying to juggle horses, work, and life, this episode is your reminder that less can truly be more.

.Resources mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

🐎 Apply for coaching with us: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching

Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

In this deeply personal and reflective episode, I and Lorna share an intimate look at a truly special life event "Jocelin’s wedding", and the powerful mindset lessons it uncovered.

After an unexpected break from the podcast, we discuss what it really means to be present, how disconnection from distractions can unlock richer experiences, and why creating moments that set your heart on fire is more important than ever, both in life and in riding.

From the quiet beauty of a Swedish haven to the joyful chaos of Midsummer celebrations, this episode explores:

• The surprising parallels between riding mindset and real-life presence.
• Why your phone might be blocking your best experiences.
• The importance of training your attention, but also following your curiosity.
• Why daring to "do the crazy things" could be your biggest growth move.
• How to stop waiting for “one day” and start creating a meaningful life now.

If you’ve ever felt caught in the rat race, disconnected during big moments, or unsure whether it’s okay to pause and fully enjoy the life you’re building, this episode is your reminder to stop, feel, and dare more boldly.

Tune in for a beautiful blend of inspiration, vulnerability, and practical mindset insights that go beyond the saddle.

Resources mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

Welcome back to another powerful episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast with I and Lorna. In this raw and relatable conversation, We dive deep into what happens when competition doesn’t go as planned, and how to mentally regroup when your best efforts still fall short.

Lorna shares her recent and emotionally intense experience at a dressage competition where things spiraled out of control, despite months of hard work and preparation.

We unpack the rollercoaster of emotions, from frustration and self-doubt to shame and anger, that follow a disappointing performance.

You’ll learn:

• Why mental toughness isn’t about “having it all together” but rather your ability to navigate discomfort.
• How to process disappointment without judgment and move forward with compassion.
• The power of reframing failure and reconnecting with your “why.”
• Why sitting with your emotions is not weakness, it’s part of growth.
• How community, connection, and vulnerability can help you feel less alone in the journey.

Whether you’ve had a tough weekend or are questioning your path, this episode is for every rider who's ever walked out of the arena thinking, “What’s the point?” You'll leave feeling seen, supported, and equipped with tools to take one small step forward, even on the hardest days.

Resources mentioned:

🧠 5 Mental Tools: https://www.mindeq.eu/mentaltools

Follow us on instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

If you loved this episode: Please leave a rating and review! It helps so much and helps us spread the message to more riders like you.

This is not just another episode, this is a milestone moment. Join me as I take you behind the scenes of one of the most significant events in my riding career: my debut at 3* eventing with my 7-year-old horse, Echo vd Vrombautshoeve Z.

What started as a distant dream becomes a breathtaking reality, and in this special documentary-style episode, you'll experience the week with me, from nervous packing to the elation of crossing the final finish line.

You'll hear:

• Why I chose Maarsbergen for my first 3*, despite it being known as a huge and demanding track
• How I handled mindset wobbles, doubts, and the pressure of stepping up a level
• What it was like riding the bold and sassy Echo through dressage, show jumping, and cross-country
• The unexpected lessons I learned from two poles down in the SJ, and why it was exactly what I needed
• The emotional highs of going clear cross-country, and the deep appreciation for the community around me.

We don’t have the perfect starting point, the perfect style, or the perfect horse. But we get the job done, and that’s what makes it so special.

Whether you're dreaming of your first 3*, battling self-doubt, or needing a reminder that progress is possible no matter where you're starting from. this episode will hit you in the heart.💚 Real. Raw. Inspiring.

Want to see the round? Check out my Instagram for behind-the-scenes footage and mindset insights.

Resources mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau