Alison Armstrong is a relationship expert and creator of the “Understanding Men” curriculum.

Why do men withdraw instead of open up? Why does “If he wanted to, he would” miss the mark? What makes a man stop caring? And what responsibility do both men and women share in creating partnership?

Expect to learn why men calculate capacity and “worth it” before acting, how testosterone and estrogen shape communication styles, why timing matters when asking emotional questions, what “frog farming” means and how it destroys attraction, the difference between physical and emotional attraction in men, why men feel responsible for making women happy (and why that’s a trap), what the “cave behind the cave” reveals about men and mortality, how to move from furious to curious in conflict, and much more.

00:00 “If He Wanted To, He Would”

03:20 Capacity vs Desire: How Men Decide

07:00 Feels Like Love, Looks Like Math

10:45 Why Men Don’t Answer “How Do You Feel?”

15:30 Timing Emotional Conversations

19:40 Coaching, Readiness & Emotional Impact

26:30 Frog Farming Explained

30:10 Why Sexual Attraction Isn’t Enough

34:05 What Makes a Man Stop Caring

37:00 The Danger of Emasculation

40:30 The Cave Behind the Cave

46:40 From Furious to Curious

52:10 Responsibility in Partnership

57:25 You Can’t Make Her Happy

59:00 Where to Find Alison’s Work

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Dr Phil Clarke is a performance psychologist and researcher.

Why do athletes lose control of skills they’ve mastered for years? Why does pressure turn automatic movements into chaos? And can you actually train your way out of the yips?

Expect to learn what the yips really are (and how they differ from choking), why perfectionism and fear of judgement make athletes more vulnerable, how psychological and physiological systems interact under pressure, why your internal narrative determines how severe the yips become, how teammates can help or worsen the problem, why pressure training needs to be personalised, how athletes can build a mental “utility belt” to stay composed, and why the yips appear not just in sport, and much more.

00:00 What Are the Yips? Full Explanation

01:15 The Psychology and Neurology Behind the Yips

02:55 Types of Yips: Type 1, Type 2 & Type 3

05:10 Why the First Yips Episode Is So Important

06:55 How Overthinking Causes Skill Breakdown

09:27 Choking vs The Yips: Key Differences

12:55 Panic, Trauma and Loss of Motor Control

14:33 Perfectionism and Fear of Judgement in Athletes

18:06 Who Gets the Yips? Pros vs Amateurs

20:05 How Your Internal Story Creates Anxiety

22:33 Socially Prescribed Perfectionism Explained

29:15 How Expectations Increase Pressure in Sport

31:57 Can You Recover From the Yips?

35:17 Best Coping Strategies for the Yips

36:41 EMDR Therapy: Does It Work for the Yips?

38:57 Mental Skills That Reduce Performance Anxiety

42:08 How Teammates and Coaches Should Support the Yips

49:45 Challenge vs Threat: Performing Under Pressure

55:35 Why “Be Fearless” Is Bad Advice for Athletes

1:00:36 How to Train Under Pressure (Yips Simulation)

1:12:13 Personalised Pressure Training for Athletes

1:21:33 The Yips Outside Sport (Music, Speaking, Aviation)

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Dr. Warren Farrell is the author of The Boy Crisis, Why Men Earn More, and Role Mate to Soul Mate. So why are so many boys struggling in school, dropping out, and feeling lost in life? Why are suicide rates among men four times higher than women? And why do so few people seem willing to talk about it?Expect to learn why fatherlessness is the single biggest predictor of male struggles, what “dad deprivation” really does to boys, and how the empathy gap between men and women makes it harder to have honest conversations, why many men are emotionally unavailable, what the “happy wife, happy life” myth gets wrong, and how we can start to rebuild healthy relationships between men and women.00:00 – Why young men are struggling today03:00 – Fatherlessness and “dad deprivation”07:00 – How family breakdown affects boys and girls differently10:30 – What is The Boy Crisis?13:00 – Male suicide rates and mental health gaps16:00 – Why it’s so hard to talk about men’s issues18:00 – The empathy gap explained22:00 – “I wish I wasn’t born male” – the identity crisis in boys26:00 – Feminism, pay gaps, and reframing male privilege34:00 – The difference between male privilege and male responsibility43:00 – How communication breakdown leads to divorce and the boy crisis60:00 – Emotional unavailability in men and where it comes from74:00 – Sport, suppression, and emotional unavailability78:00 – Creating emotional safety in relationships83:00 – What makes a good man85:00 – The importance of fatherhood and role models87:00 – Where to find Dr. Warren Farrell’s work

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