Your social brain "thinks" that if you are extra hard on yourself it will motivate you to do better.

But the opposite is true: The more you make yourself feel bad, the more you unconsciously do things to justify bad feelings.

Shame kills your mojo more than anything else. Kills performance. Disconnects you from your instincts and "soul."

This episode is on freeing yourself from shame considering:

* Evolutionary basis of this social emotion.

* Why self-shaming backfires. (Transactional Analysis)

* A simple but profound solution from the “Father of modern therapy,” Dr. Carl Rogers.

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"Men's Personal Development" wasn't a thing even one generation ago. It became so due to shifts in culture and technology. It also is a lens on the changes in male collective consciousness.

This episode analyzes the 4 recent iterations of men's work--culturally, psychologically, and technologically-- and what it says about where male psychology is headed.

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After a weird COVID relationship, a friend lent me a copy of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.

While dated in terms of style, I was shocked at how useful it was 20 years later.

I was also surprised that John had a lot to say about semen retention when I interviewed him.

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Reposting this one, as I'm preparing a new episode on the Evolution of Men's Personal Development: Transformation of the Male Unconscious, where I reference 90's self-help.

Stay tuned!