Is there a formula for getting your way (with people or circumstances)?

In my experience, there are certain qualities that make someone particularly magnetic in this sense.

I draw an actionable metaphor from the physics formula for literal magnetism,

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Patrick was in a dark place when met—ultra Nice Guy submissive tendencies, deep feelings of undeservingness, enmeshing Mother Complex, and acting out with p*rn and prostitutes.

Six months later, his life reflected massive transformation—epic dating life, greater respect at work, and feelings of deservedness.

We recorded this about a year after when he chose to settle down with his now wife. (I had also just had my first child.) We discuss male transformation and stepping into the “King” archetype.

He also shares about what led to his rapid transformation:

“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up”

Here’s another favorite from some years ago. New stuff coming in 2026, including the new improved Anabolic Psyche course 2.0. (If you already purchased it, you’ve automatically got the upgrades + a secret bonus.)

10:00 How to choose to settle down in the most empowering way.

13:50 Effort vs. Flow in masculinity

16:21 False persona vs. real Self

30:05 We’re drawn to people who have what (think) we lack.

40:00 Rising into the King archetype

Patrick started his journey with the Masculine Archetype Challenge. Still comes with a complementary 1:1 coaching session with me, though I will discontinuing that soon because…

This January, I’m opening a group coaching container for men get in touch with their instincts to get massive results with women and purpose.

It will also be much more affordable than my 1:1 coaching.

But for now it will ONLY be available to guys who’ve already taken Anabolic Psyche (pre-req).

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Dropping an old favorite in honor of my anniversary today.

How to Help Her Into Her Feminine covers what a man can do to help a woman move from her competitive (“masculine”) self to her interdependent (“feminine”) self.

It draws on some fringe lessons from BDSM, evolutionary biology, and case studies from many guys I’ve helped.

I recorded it shortly after our daughter was born. I wonder if you can hear the drop in testosterone in my voice.

(00:00:00): Irony of Attraction Shifts

(00:04:53): If Mama Ain’t Happy…

(00:10:54): Asymmetry + Connection Yin-Yang

(00:18:03): Concentric Circles Hierarchy

(00:27:47): Women’s Dual Stress

(00:39:03): Demonstrate, Don’t Demand

(00:43:40): Vision as Leader

Lots of new stuff coming in 2026!

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