If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using?

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Our lord and saviour is back (in a secular, informal way).

Kemi Nekvapil is back in the Academy of Imperfection to talk all things values: what they are, how we choose them, and how you add croissant as one of yours. Extending the conversation of our previous episode on values with Dr Em, Kemi talks with the guys about how their current personal values are working in their life.

Introducing terms such as val-rules, aspirational values and umbrella values, Kemi walks them through the difference between manipulation and modelling, and why the hard work starts AFTER we’ve chosen our values.

In a peak behind the metaphorical (and literal, hi Producer Bridge) curtain, we discuss what went down in our company values session with Kemi, and how these values come into play in a day-in-the-life of The Imperfects production team.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/TV-GL3dgtjg

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4nWgRCf
• Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent Parents - http://bit.ly/4gVbQYu
• Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology - http://bit.ly/4q3NLCW
• Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success - http://bit.ly/473cJuv

📖Things to read

• Grounded Success, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4mOWw0J
• Power, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nTsZnn
• The Gift of Asking, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nvKgU8
• Dare to Lead, by Brene Brown - http://bit.ly/46GMMzC

💻Things to check out

• Kemi’s Website - https://www.keminekvapil.com

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The mid-life update we've all been waiting for.

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In the final instillation of the Vulnerabilitea Volume 2 Cards Announcement Week, where Ryan, Hugh and Josh have each answered one of the 52 brand-spanking-new-vulnerable-questions, it’s Josh’s turn.

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for, that profoundly changed you?” Josh reflects on the recording of the episode; Dr Emily – The Meaning of Mid Life, where he vulnerably disclosed that he was really struggling with finding meaning in the second half of his life.

Sparked from this moment of authentic connection, Josh shares with Hugh and Ryan how he was able to find compassion for himself and the joy of adopting a beginner’s mindset.

Josh, we love it when good things happen to great people. And we love you!

This can be a stand-alone episode, however Ryan and Hugh’s have been absolute corkers (and we don’t say corker lightly) and you can listen to them here https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH and here http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK.

If you’d like to watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MrL2No3YiLQ

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH
• Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout - http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK
• Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid Life - https://bit.ly/4nNzmIP
• Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/3Kr9KTP
• Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/4nHTc8s
• Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/46SBaL0
• Rick Davies - Living with OCD - https://bit.ly/4ndG2Ae

📖 Things to read

• Hitch-22, by Christopher Hitchens - https://bit.ly/4gC4yZk

📺 Things to watch

• Homer Simpson’s Spice Rack - https://bit.ly/46PCzlD

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Hugh’s turn!

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This week, to celebrate the launch of our BRAND NEW Vulnerabilitea House Cards (with 52 brand-new life changing questions), Ryan, Hugh and Josh will each be answering a VII question on an episode this week.

Ryan kicked us off on Monday, and you can listen to that episode here (it’s a goody) - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH

In this episode, Hugh answers the question “When was a time when you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?”

In an answer which provides a little more context to Ryan’s episode (an unplanned narrative arc), Hugh is vulnerable about the intense burnout he has been experiencing, and his fantasies for a guilt free period of time where he can just lie down for a bit.

Unpacking the symptoms of burnout, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh the heaviness of the past year, how it has been impacting his mental health, and why it feels like everything is too much.

Hugh, thanks for calling the press conference. We love you so much.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/8K0eKoIfR-U

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH
• Another Imperfect Chat About Men - http://bit.ly/4gC1aO6

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It’s a different sort of episode(s) this week.

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Because, drum roll please*,* we have a BRAND-NEW deck of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, with 52 brand-new, life-changing questions.

That’s right baby, Volume II is available for purchase. Now.

This week, we are releasing three whole episodes (lucky you).

Each episode will feature either Ryan, Hugh or Josh in the spotlight as they answer one of our new Vulernabilitea House questions.

In this episode, Ryan answers the question, “do you have any regrets about the way you have treated others?” and talks about his relationship with Hugh, and why he has been feeling guilty.

See you Wednesday!

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see the new Tequila-Sunrise Card Deck), follow this link - https://youtu.be/PDsY2kaA4uU

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony - http://bit.ly/4pCtl3D
• Hamish McLachlan - A World Turned Upside Down - http://bit.ly/42NYPd9

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This moment is bigger than Mitch Brown.

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Tie up your laces and pull up your socks, this story is ones for the ages.

As the first male AFL player in the sport’s 129 year history to come out as bisexual, Mitch, and the public’s reaction to his story, epitomises the importance of visibility, role models and the creation of safe and inclusive environments.

Joining us in the studio, Mitch takes us back to the beginning, vulnerably telling Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the hyper-masculine environments which formed (and suppressed) his identity from a young age.

Talking through his newfound imposter syndrome, past-mistakes, and journey to finding his true, authentic self, Mitch emphasizes the critical importance of empathy.

Confiding with the guys about how monumental, overwhelming and joyful the past few weeks have been, Mitch also acknowledges the deep grief of people in his life who felt like they had let him down.

Mitch, you are making the world a better place. We love you (so much).

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cLHU4CJkqww

This episode discusses an experience of sexual assault, if this is something you're not ready to hear right now, we suggest you skip this one and come back when you are ready.

🎧Things to listen to:

• The Daily Aus - Part 1: The AFL’s first openly bisexual player - http://bit.ly/4nHyQfJ
• The Daily Aus - Part 2: The AFL’s first openly bisexual player - http://bit.ly/3VpMdVM

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

• QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
• Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
• 1800 RESPECT - If you, or someone you know needs support after after experiencing a sexual assault, please call the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.
• Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

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Matt Okine has been privy to a few life changing events.

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Hailing from Triple J infamy (the radio station ……. not the athletic event), Matt has seen success across television screens, the comedy scene and music stage.

A triple threat, you might say.

Joining us in the studio, Matt is incredibly vulnerable in sharing with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the pain and confusion of losing his mum at just 12 years old, and how becoming a parent himself has filled him with an irrational, but at times crippling, fear of death.

Matt and Ryan bond over the cathartic and confronting process of writing about yourself as a character, who doesn’t always get it right, and Matt talks to Josh about jealousy and how he learned to trust again after being cheated on.

Matt, what a feeling.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/SnV65OzHxEg

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3JRXb3O

📺 Things to watch

• The Other Guy - https://bit.ly/4m32zOL
• Ryan and Matt’s Legendary Moments Ad - https://bit.ly/4pfHxPE

🎧Things to listen to

• Helen’s Message 1992 - Matt and Alex - All Day Breakfast - http://bit.ly/46tLede

📖 Things to read

• Being Black ‘n Chicken, and Chips by Matt Okine - http://bit.ly/4nl9OCP

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Suicide is the leading cause of death for Australians aged 15 to 44.

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On average in Australia, 9 people die by suicide each day, and for every suicide, it is suggested 135 people find themselves in the impact zone.

Today we speak to Karissa Lewis, a lived experience practitioner, who sits with those in perhaps their darkest moment, in the hours, days and weeks after someone they know has died by suicide.

We discuss what a lived experience practitioner is, how it is professionalised, and how postvention (done well) is the most incredible prevention.

Going into specifics, Ryan asks Karissa what the impact zone is like in a school environment, and how you can know what to say, what to do, and how to talk to children about suicide with honesty and age-appropriate language.

Karissa is candid with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about the stigma of suicide, which prompts Josh to share a story about the complicated nature of the word ‘choice’. And we get some scientific evidence of the power of a good cry.

Life is not better off without you.

To watch this incredible episode on YouTube, follow this link:

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/4nijyxP
• Samuel Johnson - A Life of Vulnerability - https://bit.ly/4mK0zvW

📖 Things to read

• Is crying good for you? - https://bit.ly/41ys2Iy
• Zone of Fabulousness by Vikki Reynolds - https://bit.ly/3I0i5Nv

📱Things to download

• Beyond Now - Safety Planning App - https://bit.ly/466T9Mo

💻Things to check out

• Social Futures StandBy Support After Suicide - https://bit.ly/4mHWZ5s
• National Centre for Childhood Grief - https://bit.ly/466ONop
• Certificate IV in Mental Health Peer Work (there’s lots!)
• Living Works Australia - ASIST 2 Day Course - https://bit.ly/429tNMz

🎟️Things to buy tickets for

• Together Again, Imperfects Live Show - https://bit.ly/47VT9Bc

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide;

• Contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
• 13YARN (Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander Crisis Support Line) – 13 92 76
• Please call 000 in an emergency
• StandBy Support After Suicide – 1300 727 247

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Mid-life crises have a bad rap.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, this emisode is for everyone, but especially for those who’s back goes out more than them, and who are trying to fill the void with purpose (or a ponytail, or a sports car).

Technically, you’re in your mid-life from about the ages of 35-70. Which would be quite bleak, if we didn’t have Dr Emily in the studio to reframe this period of our lives with hope, meaning and purpose.

Tuning into what our soul is yearning for, Dr Emily discusses how we can intentionally look at generating legacy, combat narratives which suggest “we should have it all worked out”, and maybe even turn our intelligence into a …. um, butterfly.

And then we hear from Josh, who’s right in the thick of it. Cue tears. Cue hugs. Cue sending Josh all of the love in the entire world.

Dr Em, you’ve hit the nail on the head with this one.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/r6tdU-r5k4o

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - http://bit.ly/3HTMKMi
• Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - http://bit.ly/4fYJonW
• Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self - http://bit.ly/45BW9kU

📖Things to read

• Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4mAhUaA
• Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Your Life, by James Hollis - http://bit.ly/41oMED0
• From Strength to Strength, by Arthur C Brooks - http://bit.ly/4lFObvD

💻Things to check out

• Erik Erikson’s psychosocial theory of development - http://bit.ly/4oV1knq
• Jungian Therapy - http://bit.ly/3JyslNh
• Chip Connolly - Modern Elder Academy - http://bit.ly/4fZUN70
• Kristen Neff - Online Self Compassion Practice - http://bit.ly/4mUIs68
• Chris Germer - Mindful Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3Vj5d82
• Paul Gilbert - Developing Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/4fYN74U
• Regina Gurlach - Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3HO1Xi2
• U-Shaped Curve of Happiness - http://bit.ly/4p0m5hQ
• Ron Siegel - The Disillusion of Living - http://bit.ly/4fYO11i

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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